Limitless

Long awaited and much anticipated ... IT'S BEEN A LONG TIME!  This my friends is truly a blog I wrote today lol....

Much has changed, as it should, and I have embraced each change in my life with open arms.  This Thanksgiving weekend has been so special, partially because it's my favorite holiday, but mostly because I got to spend this time with my husband and kids without waking up super early and going to work (YAYYY!!!)

While enjoying our rest and relaxation, we watched a movie, Limitless... starring Bradley Cooper (recently deemed the 'sexiest man alive' - I THINK NOT LOL).  The plot was amazing, and the movie offers an intriguing idea... what if we could take a pill that accessed the other 90% of our brain, which would in turn, increase our mental focus, and make us rich and powerful.  Most people would immediately say, 'sign me up son!'  But what if.... we didn't need a pill for that and it would still be possible? 

I recently finished a book by Dr. Cherie Carter-Scott, Ph.D. called If Life is a Game: These are the Rules.  Dr. Carter-Scott also offered an intriguing idea... the idea that everything we need to be successful, everything we need to fulfill our destiny is already within us.  All we have to do is tap into it.  I thought to myself, 'well what button do I push and where the heck is it?!' LOL!

If I gave you a pill, and told you this tiny clear pill can make you so focused, that you could write an entire novel in 1 week, or learn how to play the piano, then you would probably take it.  Now what if that pill was simply a vitamin B pill, all natural, nothing special about it.  But while I was talking, you had already convinced yourself that you would be focused right after you took the pill (not knowing what it was), and indeed you were.

The mind is powerful folks.  Our ability to focus is there, we just have to remove the distractions.  We can't let negative thoughts set limits on our lives.  Our what ifs should sound more like, "What if Oprah came out of retirement, just to interview me and talk about my books?  Or what if she invited me to a gathering of world leaders, philanthropist, and what I like to call 'game changers'?" Okay, okay... you caught me, that was a thought of mine, that I like to think of... often lol.  The point is, our 'what ifs' shouldn't be negative, or fearful, or 'what ifs' should be LIMITLESS!

LOVE YOU ALL!

Dasha

Pivotal Moments...

This is also an old post that I never published (what was my deal?! lol)... oh well... here it is:




It's been a while since I've blogged, did ya miss me?! lol ;-)  I can honestly say I missed it...  And I'm happy life slowed me down a bit so I could reflect on the last 5 months.  In the process of working, taking care of a family, going to school, and planning a most fabulous wedding, I have managed to catch a cold that knocked me down for going on 5 days now. 
My problem is I do not know how to be still.  Boredom drives me crazy, and I hate wasting time.  I have 'busy-body syndrome' lol.... yeah I just made that up.  Everytime I get sick, I always know it's because I need to stop, and get back in touch with what matters the most.  It's not my job that matters, it's not money that matters, it's not anything materialistic... what matters the most is my family and my spiritual health. 

I relate my spiritual health to my physical health a lot because I believe, what is within, shows itself in our physical health.  This is not the case all the time, but for me, it is the case most of the time.  I get these things called cluster headaches, and if you don't know what they are, all you need to know is that you never want to have them lol.  The entire time I dealt with this, I kept asking God to take the pain away, I mean like really attempting to bargain with God.  Make a long story short... It didn't go away when I asked it to, the attack ran its course. 

This couldn't have happened at a better time... I was less than 2 months away from my wedding date!!  At the time, I wondered if the attack would last until June.  What if I can't walk down the aisle?  What if my dress doesn't fit anymore?  What if... what if... what if.  Then I heard... 'You'll still get married.'  It didn't matter if I couldn't walk down the aisle, my dress didn't matter, the flowers didn't matter, none of it mattered... because I was still getting married.  The only thing that mattered was me pledging my love for the man God created for me, and joyously accepting my role as the woman God created for him.  We were fearfully and wonderfully made ... and instead of focusing on the pain, I focused on the love I felt from my family and the beautiful life ahead of us. 

*SPOILER ALERT* (LOL)  Our wedding day was perfect.  When I woke up that morning, I could feel something big happening spiritually, I could feel that I was forming a bond that was sent by God, and that would always be led by God.  I'm so thankful and could not have asked for a better husband.  I love that man with all my heart and soul, and don't plan on changing that!

Hold Em or Fold Em

I wrote this a loooonnnggg time ago and never posted it.  I added a little bit to it ;-)


I am slowly being sucked into an interest for poker (thanks to my wonderful fiance lol).  The game is all about strategy- knowing when to play a hand by calculating risk, knowing your opponent, anticipating what cards will come on the flop (Yes, I'm getting pretty good at my poker lingo).  The more I learn about it- the more I see poker can be related to the choices we make in our lives. 

In Texas Hold Em- each player is dealt 2 cards.  Some players end up with better cards than others.   In a deck of cards, there are far more weak cards (numbered cards) than strong cards (face cards).  Similar to life, where very few of us our dealt face cards in the very beginning.  Some of us were born in poverty, while others were born into wealth.

But whether you were dealt a horrible hand or a great hand, winning the game is about patience, risk, and knowing when to hold onto the cards that you need, and when to throw away the cards that you don't need.  If we all had the ability to throw away the memories that hold us back, and keep the ones that made us stronger, we would all be in a place of peace and continuous positive growth.

I'm challenging you to think about the situations and/or the people that hurt you in the past.  Ask yourself why it bothers you so much, what is it exactly that hurt you so much.  If you need to scream while you're doing this, then do it, if you need to cry while you're doing this, then do that, but what I don't want you to do, is feel sorry for yourself.  As you stir up these emotions, thank God for them.  I know that may sound crazy, but those people who hurt you, those situations that almost got the best of you, were all placed there to push you toward your destiny.

If you're familiar with the story of Judas, then you know that Judas betrayed Jesus, and this betrayal pushed Jesus toward His destiny.  Jesus had to face rejection in order for you and I to be saved.  What makes us better than Jesus?  Who said we wouldn't have to face it ourselves at some point, no matter how painful? 

In other words, we all need a Judas... or 2 ... or 3 ... maybe even 4!  Those people drive us toward the greatness we have within.  So get out all those past emotions that still bring tears to your eyes, that still make your heart ache, don't hold onto them, put closure on those situations by yelling or writing out exactly what you want those people to know.  Then rip up the paper... let it go... fold the memories of betrayal, throw those cards back, and hold onto the cards that will increase your chip count (in life terms, increase your peace).  Focus on your VICTORY!